When things get tricky : Do you try again or try harder?


What can one possibly do on a journey that lasts 5hours? I decided in the spirit of organisation to plan the whole trip to a “P”.
Snakes and ladders,
Word search          ,
“I spy” tactics, oh…and I forgot
Light refreshments.
About 3 hours into the journey, I was exhausted. I could not sleep because unlike most people, I don’t sleep in public!
Haha….only because you fart when you sleep- My husband just managed to add behind my ears.
Well, such is life, we are all endowed differently and controlling wind is not one of my strong points. Anyway, we began playing games and by the time the colouring began, Mark twisted himself into knots trying to get the colours in the box. My 5yr old was frustrated.
“Mum, the train keeps moving and ruining my work”, he said for the umpteenth time.
It was perfect to me given the circumstances. But the little man was not having any of that.
“I want it to be perfect!” he moaned. One part of me wanted to ignore him but he had said it so many times and deserved some attention- bless him.
Me: it’s fine the way it is Mark
Him: No mum it is not. If only the train could stop for a moment !
Me: But it won’t
Him: crying
Me: you have to accept that the train will keep moving at least for now and keep doing your colouring. Don’t you like to colour anymore?
Him: I love it mummy.
Me: Then try to focus on enjoying what you are doing. It doesn’t really matter. Soon you will find a way.
Him: still crying – but I want it to be perfect mummy.
Me: but it can’t though. Nothing is ever really perfect. You just have to keep trying
Him: I can’t try mummy, it’s not being perfect
Me: try again
Him: No mummy, I don’t have to try again because that is not even working. I have to try HARDER. Maybe trying harder will make it perfect.
Me: smiling because that made sense but I then said “keep trying that’s the most important thing whether it’s trying “again”, or trying “harder”, just keep trying and don’t give up on your colouring. Ignore the train and enjoy what you are doing.
Him: ok mum.
…and that was it.
There was peace. He began trying harder as he had proposed earlier and suddenly the bumpy ride did not matter. He stopped fussing. After a couple of hours, I glanced at his doodle pad and it looked better than the first time.
That’s life really. We all keep trying hard…very hard and sometimes too hard. Life doesn’t have to be such a chore. It doesn’t have to be so difficult. If we change our focus it can make a big difference to the same life as we have found it to be. The bumpy ride, the ups and downs are sometimes constantly there just like our train. So it makes sense to just enjoy what we have to do. Enjoy the job at hand, enjoy the company of friends, enjoy the decisions you are privileged to make. Enjoy the food you have available. Just live life to the fullest. Don’t go emptying your bank account on a shopping spree by the way 😀 Just do the best you can within the circumstances life chooses to impose on you.
Have a fantastic day people.

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